April 4, 2008 at 10:05 am (in-laws, me me)
whether you like it or not, this is me… i m who i m , i don’t have to care about what the others think about, so, why should i bother about how you think about me? if you don’t like me, get out of my faces, and don’t worry, i won’t want to see you either.
This is to my in-laws that involves a feud with me.
February 22, 2008 at 11:16 am (in-laws)
This chinese new year, we went back to Ipoh to visited Kane’s family and relatives…
Also distributed ang pows for children and my girls collected ang pows…
And then listens to stupid comments again… So Boring!!!
Kane’s auntie ( 伯母) keep on asking me when am I going to give birth again to another baby boy to add the family brooth. Then, my Mom-in-law added in and say,” yalor yalor, two girls not enough one, must add some more one…..”
Kane then say maybe sometime later, but not now… As we both still struggle to take care of two daugthers and also keep our careers stay at the top, wait till the girls are school and then we then only think about adding another one… But both of the ladies are aiming at me, babies must give birth when you are young, so you will be able to take care of them…or girls not supposed to work one lah, must stay at home to take care of children… BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH…
At the entire conversation, I’ve been keeping quiet because I don’t want to start a fight, and others cleverly keeping quiet and not to interfere with this… OK… since you two not going to keep quiet and keep on shooting at me, you asked for it…
” Ah Ma, if you going to give me money monthly to raise my kids then i considered to give birth again, but remember plus my salary also as you requested me to stay at home one wor… if Kane ask me to stay then he give me salary, but now you requested me to stay at home then you paid me salary as i take care your grandchildren…And the salary better not less than what i have now…”
Then Kane 伯母 quickly changed and said nowdays are hard to stay at home as things are expensive and it is expensive to raise a kid BLAH BLAH, she is lucky that she changes quick, if not, she also get from me…
Then she quickly walked out the living room with my MIL towards the dining room…HAHA… This is called PLEASE RESPECT OTHERS…
When am I going to give birth again or not this question is going to be with me and Kane, not you two auntie to worried…We had our own plan to live with and you two are not counted a part in it, so when next time be smart when ask me the question when are you going to get pregnant again?
or you going to get bullets from me… Haha ( this question only Kane side are not allowed to ask, cause it make me get cross each time i heard it, it come with insulting, so only them are forbid to ask) Hehe… others are welcome…
February 19, 2008 at 11:42 am (in-laws)
after i give birth to my second child, i m struggling how to breastfeed her, and then try to take care of Carmen, and try to avoid some visitors…hai…my in-laws!!!
Actually not all of them are that bad, is just that words that spilled from their mouth makes you want to kill them only…
this is all because of my mom-in-law and my kane’s sister… my mom-in-law makes me mad is because she started to commented about both of my daugthers and trying to stop me from breastfeed, because she said i’m making Sabrina sick (jaudice, where usually new-born get it), and trying to make Carmen eats all kinds of food where children belows three is not advised to eat…
my sis-in-law, fun… is the most brainless of all, is like making a fuss, trying to made me and kane fight again regards our daugthers wellfare…
Been trying to invisble to them, avoiding to get all kind of attacks, but it seems that nothing works…
I cries often after their visit, nothing could cheer me up at that particular time, i think about a week or two, even carmen learning to talk or playing i cries…
One night, i dreamed that carmen and sabrina grew up in Ipoh, in their house, they became selfish, all the attitudes that they had. I woke up in a sudden that i realise the only way my babies won’t get near them is when I’m stand tough to protect them. Away from them.
You may say forget it, of what they had done, forgive them, or i am so cruel to them. Or no matter how, they are part of my family. For me, no, there is no turning back for me… After of what they did to me, my daugthers… they should know the consequences…
I never get cross with anyone until the hatred is so deep, that I could never forget what had happen all this while..
Till now, sometimes i will still cries over small things and worry about many things…
please PRAY THAT I m ok, I don’t want to get into depression…
HELP!!!
November 16, 2007 at 9:03 am (in-laws, 孩子篇)
there is sometimes i wonder who my babies will they take after, me or kane? is not that my hubby is not handsome or dumb or what, there is something that i believed all parents will agree that they will hope their children take after the best, the bad attitude keep away…
once in engaged in this fight with my sister in law (kane’s younger sister) about the heritage problem. most people know carmen look alot like the father when she were born, totally the same chop (where everyone thought i gave birth to a baby boy), then she is chubby, well, of course babies are chubby… you know what… my sister in law told me the other day that this baby is bringing a good fortune to the family, of course you heard such a good comment you will be proud, but actually NO…
this is our conversation :
” yi shou (二嫂), the baby look alot like our side, so fat…you know ar, fat means bring good luck, skinny no good…i am sure she will be a fatty when she gew up”
X#%*#$%@*%$^##….. (she is lucky that i didn’t slap her in the face)
“choy, look like your side of the family, no way…fat and short…who say fat means fortune…i also so skinny, ask your brother whether did i bring bad luck to him or not? she nothing a part that look like your side” “plus if she fat means she sure on diet, means no healthy”
“no, trust me, cause i look at her bone ar, she is those fat fat genes”
“if you so good at looking at people body or plam, why don’t you set up a stall at the market and be a fartune teller, this is my daugther, and please don’t curse her with your #$%*$%^ mouth”
………………
this is kind like insulting me, i were always skinny, where i hardly gain any weight even thought no matter no i eat… what kind of old fashion thinking is this, fat means fook hei “福气”…
its not that i don’t like daughter fat or not fat next time, i can’t control that who she will takes after, is just i want her to grow happily and enjoy… but is just when i heard my in laws started to commented about my daugther, assume things about her, this is a part i don’t like…
i had an agreement with kane where we would never plan for our chilren future, because i believe this is their life, is them who fill their life with color, not us… we just being supportive to them… we never make judgement on them, means on their personality, like if you keep saying the kid if fat, do you know how hurt would it be that… make them no confidence in doing everything…
(that’s why when i hear my in laws comment about my baby…THERE WILL BE WAR…but this only happen to my in-law, haha…)
October 23, 2007 at 2:22 am (in-laws)
i wonder if anyone don’t have any problem with the in-laws? well, don’t look at me, i had alot…real trouble one… i hope there is someone who can drop a peice of their mind to me…
it is like a war(no joking, imagine a city girl meet a old-fashioned kampung lady will end up like what)
actually, once upon ago, our relationship is so good till people can’t believe that i ‘m the daugther-in-law,keke…why end up like this?
started from the day i found out i were pregnant with my 1st child, oh my gosh, there are rules, rules, rules… you can’t eat this, you can’t eat that, how am i going to get all the nutrition for my child.
“A girl, ah mah last time all also never eat, still can give birth to your husband and to the others”
“ya la, last time you didn’t had any morning sickness, i had now, if i don’t eat, baby no nutrition to grow”
“no need go so expensive hospital to give birth one, ah mah last time go clinic only, you go clinic also can already”
“ah mah, kl no clinic one, only hospital, plus the nearby one all private hospital, no worries, no need you to pay one cent”
i don’t dare to write much about this, later my dear found out i sure die, but all i know is there is still some so old-fashioned auntie in this world…
can anyone tell me with a little of this incident, can anyone tell me how to deal with my mother-in-law?
