there is sometimes i wonder who my babies will they take after, me or kane? is not that my hubby is not handsome or dumb or what, there is something that i believed all parents will agree that they will hope their children take after the best, the bad attitude keep away…
once in engaged in this fight with my sister in law (kane’s younger sister) about the heritage problem. most people know carmen look alot like the father when she were born, totally the same chop (where everyone thought i gave birth to a baby boy), then she is chubby, well, of course babies are chubby… you know what… my sister in law told me the other day that this baby is bringing a good fortune to the family, of course you heard such a good comment you will be proud, but actually NO…
this is our conversation :
” yi shou (二嫂), the baby look alot like our side, so fat…you know ar, fat means bring good luck, skinny no good…i am sure she will be a fatty when she gew up”
X#%*#$%@*%$^##….. (she is lucky that i didn’t slap her in the face)
“choy, look like your side of the family, no way…fat and short…who say fat means fortune…i also so skinny, ask your brother whether did i bring bad luck to him or not? she nothing a part that look like your side” “plus if she fat means she sure on diet, means no healthy”
“no, trust me, cause i look at her bone ar, she is those fat fat genes”
“if you so good at looking at people body or plam, why don’t you set up a stall at the market and be a fartune teller, this is my daugther, and please don’t curse her with your #$%*$%^ mouth”
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this is kind like insulting me, i were always skinny, where i hardly gain any weight even thought no matter no i eat… what kind of old fashion thinking is this, fat means fook hei “福气”…
its not that i don’t like daughter fat or not fat next time, i can’t control that who she will takes after, is just i want her to grow happily and enjoy… but is just when i heard my in laws started to commented about my daugther, assume things about her, this is a part i don’t like…
i had an agreement with kane where we would never plan for our chilren future, because i believe this is their life, is them who fill their life with color, not us… we just being supportive to them… we never make judgement on them, means on their personality, like if you keep saying the kid if fat, do you know how hurt would it be that… make them no confidence in doing everything…
(that’s why when i hear my in laws comment about my baby…THERE WILL BE WAR…but this only happen to my in-law, haha…)
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